How to forgive and forget the right way

How can you forgive and forget the right way? It can be difficult to forgive that angry bus driver, pushy sales rep, or self-opinionated spouse. But don’t be fooled!

To forgive means to ‘let go’ of experiences from our past that no longer serve us today. Don’t confuse forgiveness with weakness.

It doesn’t mean that you must become friends with your ‘Nemesis’. Nor does it mean that you have to agree with everything they say.

Its normal to feel angry, resentful, and guilty at times. But holding onto those thoughts is where the problem lies. You can’t do anything about the past, so why continue to relive those bad feeling thoughts?

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Instead give up all the effort. Accept what happened and move on.

Whether other people messed up and you got the brunt of it, or it was all your fault: Either way, let it be. It’s now in the past.

Forgive and forget

Say to yourself ‘just let it go’. Put a post it note on your fridge with the words ‘let it go’ or find a good forgiveness quote and stick it on your wall. Practice letting go of guilt, anger and resentment. Forgive yourself for what you did yesterday and don’t beat yourself up!

Forgive what other people did to you, and don’t hold grudges with them. Remember your power lies with your ability to forgive: to let go and move forward without judgement.


“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong”

Mahatma Gandhi

6 responses to “How to forgive and forget the right way”

  1. The person needing forgiveness must ask for forgiveness from the violated person. The violated person should forgive. But the violated person cannot forget which is a perfect defense mechanism and, the violated person can heal and can learn how to forget by not allowing the person that violated access (into his or her space) to violate again.

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    • Good comment! Often this is the case, but forgiveness is ‘letting go’ of the grievance at a deeper level. Shining a light on the violation/problem through present moment awareness (presence). I don’t know if you are familiar with Eckhart Tolle? ☯️

      Looking at the problem in this way, through awareness breaks the ‘resentment/fearful energy’ down and makes easier to move forward. ☯️🙏💡

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      • No I have never heard of Eckhart Tolle. He sounds like a mix of new age and social-theory philosopher. I cannot fathom anyone embracing forgiveness and honoring their violator or violation. I like forgiving and forgetting when the the violator asks for forgiveness. And when victim accepts, the letting go happens as, out of sight, out of mind. The Christian Bible New Testament states that we should live our enemies, and that I can, in a humanitarian way and not personable or in intimacy.

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